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Even flies don't touch mince and tatties"fumier"
Love it!!!!
French for a "dung heap"
I would just like to say
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So sorry mate! As you say, she is being manipulated.We've been married 55 years and apart for 10
It's my son trying to get the house off us, he's manipulating her
She was quite happy living in the big house we both bought for cash in 1985 and me in my bungalow.
It's not going to end well for either of us I'm afraid
I thought as much from your first post. So typical, sadly.
Is there any chance at all that you can contact her, preferably in writing, saying that you know exactly what is going on and that you don't want it to end badly for her any more than for yourself? Try asking for her to go to mediation, minus the blinking son.
If it goes to court she will only end up with half of the house so she will end up living in a much worse place. Maybe if you can make her see that, she'll eventually agree to the divorce with things being left as they stand, if you are happy with that.
When my ex and I divorced we worked out a mutually satisfactory arrangement re finances based on how we had always done it, i.e. we paid into a joint account according to our incomes, for all joint expenses. Including the house. So when we got divorced we worked out the settlement based on exactly the same formula.
The judge asked to see us to discuss this, but we were both happy with it and declined his request. So we got the decree absolute but no official financial settlement. This is probaly very unusual. But it suited us fine and we went on working together for the next 20 years with no recriminations or threats of going back to court.
Again, so sorry mate, and best of luck!
Too late I'm afraid, divorce proceedings already in motion, she's going straight to court
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I'm afraid that I would say it is never too late. You have nothing to lose by trying.
It all depends how much she is under said son's thumb.
So try anyway. The court cannot force you to do much. It isn't a Chieftain tank, it is there, at the end of the day, to ensure justice, i.e. fairness.
Of course if she goes for it then you will have eventually to go to court and plead your case. But I would suggest that your having allowed her to live in the joint marital home for the past 10 years rent free ought to count for something. i.e. back rent at the very least. Did she pay all the bills i.e. council tax etc?
If she cuts up rough I would be demanding back rent against her claims. That should knock a hole in her case. You will know how much a house like that goes for rent in the open market over the past ten years. It would add up to a sizeable sum.
Knock that off half the value of the house as it stands..... Did you have children under the age of 18 living in that house during the last 10 years? If not she hasn't got a leg to stand on. She would have to prove that she basically paid for the house and that it is/was always hers. She cannot expect to live in it rent free for 10 years and then take it off you or take half of it off you.
Totally hating to say this, but if you feel under pressure and a bit "rabbit in the headlights" you need to get proper advice. But do tell your solicitor everything you have ever done for her and the house so he/she has a proper picture.
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I love the fact that you are eating green "trees"! despite Google translate giving you, "buy one get one free"!
No it didnt I put that in
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Well "arbre" means "tree", or sometimes "axle" and it don't matter who put it in!!No it didnt I put that in
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OK, that's it, off to bed.
Sleep tite folks!
Sleep tite folks!
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Well "arbre" means "tree", or sometimes "axle" and it don't matter who put it in!!
Its quite hard to eat an axle
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Beautiful start to the day down here.
Happy Friday peeps
Happy Friday peeps
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Panda's call it grub.
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The call em skips in the trade. When the crank snaps the skip man takes it away. Rubbish is already inside.
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Yer need propper legal help from a legal peep who deals wiv devorse. They will know the typical reasonable settlement and what you can argue, fer what yer have to share. Where yer defence is bearing in mind wot yer both put in and wot levers change that. Devorse settlement is difficult to judge. Yours has some unusual cling ons wiv the dual property fing and length of time and wot fings happened during that time. Eye appreciate its daunting to approach a legal peep but its the best way. Yer need someone acting on your behalf to deal wiv this and to guide you.
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Morning folks, hope we are all ok.
It's Friday though
It's Friday though
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