Ok, so here is a catch up!
I took the starter motor off (that short sentence was 3 days struggling to get the top bolt off~found some handy advice on another post which worked), replaced the the copper contacts and plunger for new, tested on a bench and replaced, which worked! For a little while.
So I confidently jumped in, as it's been a good week driving, and...no go, first attempt starter clicks rapidly, then next attempt one click, and then finally no clicks.
So, I whip off the starter motor, strip it down amd check it over, clean it up again, test on the bench, works no problem at all. Pop it back on....same thing, few clicks, one click, nothing. I charged my battery for good measure (14v)
I put the DVM to work, putting it on the small wire and turning it over~0.5v. So I assume the starter relay? But where it is is a mystery. Not behind battery, I'm not sure about the ecu fuse box in engine bay, I can't find any info as to what the relays are, but I did bell the small wire to a few fuses in there (all fuses ok) see picture.
I am considering doing the old screwdriver across the two terminals job on the starter motor to get her to start, but it wouldn't solve the problem.
Any ideas?!