Hi James,
Yes, lapping valves can seem like a tedious task, but if it is done well, the results justify the effort. The huge reduction in valve-head temperatures after good lapping makes it worthwhile, The valves and the guides will last forever after that.
I generally do all the exhaust valves first, on the theory that as they matter most, if I do them first I won't skimp on them.
When I can get access, I try to use a battery drill on the valve stems to rotate the valves. Sometime access is tricky, and then I put a stub of a drill bit into the chuck, and a length of plastic tube on that, and shove the open end of the tube onto the valve stem. It can be turned and lifted just fine, and is a whole lot more effective than a stick with a rubber sucker on the end.
In the olden days some valves had a slot milled into their heads so a screwdriver could be used to turn them.
It's one of those jobs worth doing well it it is worth doing at all.
CharlesY
PS I live in the countryside, with a wee bitty of land to play on.