Well I finally got my head round the wiring, regretably it's all OK, even the inside of the fuse box looks like new.
I also found information about doing a stall test, the box fails.
Of all the things I expected to fail on the P38, the gearbox was way down the list, I've always thought ZF boxes were pretty reliable, I've had them on other vehicles that have topped 300K miles. I reckon that the ZF4HP22 is marginal for the P38. It's really my worst nightmare.
I've removed the PSI Power Box, that has disguised the problem, 1st to 2nd is fine with the reduced power, 2nd to 3rd over revs a little sometimes.
Maybe the power box is just too much for the gearbox torque rating.