I thought it was an "Embuggeration"
An alternative I think .....
An alternative I think .....
Shoot all rabbits?
Glasgie
Well-Known Member
Guid evening
Having booked a days leave for today its been roasting, taps aff.
Sun sun sun around 23 deg, taps aff
My daughter and I went kayaking this morning,
Loch Castle Semple no wind perfect for a gentle paddle, had my wet suit on which was a mistake as to hot.
And my 5 mile river walk this afternoon and did I mention taps aff !
I'm absolutely knackered, will sit in the garden and chill after dinner and contemplate my last full week at work.
Having booked a days leave for today its been roasting, taps aff.
Sun sun sun around 23 deg, taps aff
My daughter and I went kayaking this morning,
Loch Castle Semple no wind perfect for a gentle paddle, had my wet suit on which was a mistake as to hot.
And my 5 mile river walk this afternoon and did I mention taps aff !
I'm absolutely knackered, will sit in the garden and chill after dinner and contemplate my last full week at work.
Phoned Dads mate Alan the Roofer, he's gonna call back tonight ...
You do get all the crap. I understand why you would want to both help and walk away. As you say a dilemma...I have a dilemma.
MIL (92..3) has no shower since her mixer went all grindy & broken 2 weeks ago. Her son "fixed" her toilet last year and cracked the cistern so it is slowly seeping water.
Useless BIL has sent a couple of bags of assorted 2nd-hand crap in the hope that it helps the situation, but cannot visit or even leave the house to return a LPOA letter to the soli's. So my missus went to get this completed letter/form from him and he dumps all this crap on her "for Mum". Wife tries to get me interested and I say not for me, I want none of that its all $hit I'm not touching it.
We have tried to engage a plumber but he doesn't want the pi55y smelly dirty oldwomanjob and priced it so high as to be out of the firing line (smart man).
TBH, the old gal probably will only live another year or two at most so is it worth splashing out all her savings on a new bathroom? I think not, and the upheaval would be immense for her.
The problem is that if I stick to my guns the wife thinks I am a ba$tard, but if you touch the thing you then own it forever and all the ongoing problems, the place is a can of worms with bodges on top of bodges; which is why I am fighting shy of it.
I can't even put a simple Electric instant shower in there because her wiring is only fit to be condemned and is a ruddy firetrap of TRS rubber wiring held together by hopes & dreams. If a sparky saw it he would take the main fuse out immediately.
I could do the minimum (replace the bog, change the mixer for a surface mounted cheap-o) and put a new Economy 7 water heater in there on the existing wiring) for probably <£600 - 800.
But I would much rather a plumber did it all and suffered all the urine stained carpets and the rotten floorboards.
I am hoping that the other BIL (the decent one) and I can agree to do this together. But I am not hopeful.
I think we all know you will help as you are the kind sort that always will. It is a shame that they take advantage of your good nature!
I fully understand your reluctance and do have sympathy with you re. the useless ones BUT, when it comes down to it it is a very old lady who is being made to see out her days in gross discomfort. If she has the money then that can be used to get her a lovely, but simple, bathroom to enjoy - it is her money and something for her, next of kin they get what is left, if anything....I have a dilemma.
MIL (92..3) has no shower since her mixer went all grindy & broken 2 weeks ago. Her son "fixed" her toilet last year and cracked the cistern so it is slowly seeping water.
Useless BIL has sent a couple of bags of assorted 2nd-hand crap in the hope that it helps the situation, but cannot visit or even leave the house to return a LPOA letter to the soli's. So my missus went to get this completed letter/form from him and he dumps all this crap on her "for Mum". Wife tries to get me interested and I say not for me, I want none of that its all $hit I'm not touching it.
We have tried to engage a plumber but he doesn't want the pi55y smelly dirty oldwomanjob and priced it so high as to be out of the firing line (smart man).
TBH, the old gal probably will only live another year or two at most so is it worth splashing out all her savings on a new bathroom? I think not, and the upheaval would be immense for her.
The problem is that if I stick to my guns the wife thinks I am a ba$tard, but if you touch the thing you then own it forever and all the ongoing problems, the place is a can of worms with bodges on top of bodges; which is why I am fighting shy of it.
I can't even put a simple Electric instant shower in there because her wiring is only fit to be condemned and is a ruddy firetrap of TRS rubber wiring held together by hopes & dreams. If a sparky saw it he would take the main fuse out immediately.
I could do the minimum (replace the bog, change the mixer for a surface mounted cheap-o) and put a new Economy 7 water heater in there on the existing wiring) for probably <£600 - 800.
But I would much rather a plumber did it all and suffered all the urine stained carpets and the rotten floorboards.
I am hoping that the other BIL (the decent one) and I can agree to do this together. But I am not hopeful.
Stripping out the smelly floor coverings is not going to be pleasant for anybody but old age can create these problems. Sadly, she is entirely dependant on those around her to come to her assistance.
Just my opinion.
At least by doing this, the money will be enjoyed by her and then there will be less to go to her very unhelpful son.
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Use the Boltardy variety.
Thank you for your thoughtful response, it is much appreciated. Bless you!I fully understand your reluctance and do have sympathy with you re. the useless ones BUT, when it comes down to it it is a very old lady who is being made to see out her days in gross discomfort. If she has the money then that can be used to get her a lovely, but simple, bathroom to enjoy - it is her money and something for her next of kin, they get what is left, if anything.
Stripping out the smelly floor coverings is not going to be pleasant for anybody but old age can create these problems. Sadly, she is entirely dependant on those around her to come to her assistance.
Just my opinion.
At least by doing this, the money will be enjoyed by her and then there will be less to go to her very unhelpful son.
Reached out to the other BIL and he has just popped round and agrees that we both will do "what is necessary" to get her a working shower.
We are agreed that I will "get" all the bits, and "we" will go fit them and SHE won't get ripped off. Sort-of...SORTED!
Alan is really busy, as good builders always are, but he'll come on Saturday afternoon to look at it ...
Good guys are hard to find, I hope he can resolve it quickly.
Shimsteriom
Master Procrastinator
Mind you don't get sunburn
Hicap phill
Well-Known Member
Take a few photos of the damage just incase there are no water marks etc on Saturday to show them.
Hicap phill
Well-Known Member
Good evening from Avonmouth
Was raining but it’s now gone over the bridge into wales as normal
now to spend a bit of time catching up on stuff from the weekend
Was raining but it’s now gone over the bridge into wales as normal
now to spend a bit of time catching up on stuff from the weekend
Tenebreaux
Well-Known Member
The only reason I managed to get my roof done in a hurry was because the bloke that came to look at it loved P38s. True story.
Boo hoo, I've a Kia Picanto ...
Nowt exiting?
Wait till the fruit an fibre kicks in
Haha that wouldnt be good being 3 stories up on a roof an a couple of miles from my loo
You'll be glad to know I was fine
That happened to us before we bought our cottage, they accepted out offer then the next day got a call
to say they had a higher offer so fuk yezz they were waiting for us to up our offer told them to feck off.
A year later it burnt down.
You poor sod!...I have a dilemma.
MIL (92..3) has no shower since her mixer went all grindy & broken 2 weeks ago. Her son "fixed" her toilet last year and cracked the cistern so it is slowly seeping water.
Useless BIL has sent a couple of bags of assorted 2nd-hand crap in the hope that it helps the situation, but cannot visit or even leave the house to return a LPOA letter to the soli's. So my missus went to get this completed letter/form from him and he dumps all this crap on her "for Mum". Wife tries to get me interested and I say not for me, I want none of that its all $hit I'm not touching it.
We have tried to engage a plumber but he doesn't want the pi55y smelly dirty oldwomanjob and priced it so high as to be out of the firing line (smart man).
TBH, the old gal probably will only live another year or two at most so is it worth splashing out all her savings on a new bathroom? I think not, and the upheaval would be immense for her.
The problem is that if I stick to my guns the wife thinks I am a ba$tard, but if you touch the thing you then own it forever and all the ongoing problems, the place is a can of worms with bodges on top of bodges; which is why I am fighting shy of it.
I can't even put a simple Electric instant shower in there because her wiring is only fit to be condemned and is a ruddy firetrap of TRS rubber wiring held together by hopes & dreams. If a sparky saw it he would take the main fuse out immediately.
I could do the minimum (replace the bog, change the mixer for a surface mounted cheap-o) and put a new Economy 7 water heater in there on the existing wiring) for probably <£600 - 800.
But I would much rather a plumber did it all and suffered all the urine stained carpets and the rotten floorboards.
I am hoping that the other BIL (the decent one) and I can agree to do this together. But I am not hopeful.
How many times have I said that to you?
So often between a rock and a hard place. Family-wise
I think in your place I'd do exactly the same i.e. the minimum job preferably with the decent BIL.
But not easy.
so feel for you!
I know. Feeling guilty for posting. I must come across as a right moaning old buggreYou poor sod!
How many times have I said that to you?
So often between a rock and a hard place. Family-wise
I think in your place I'd do exactly the same i.e. the minimum job preferably with the decent BIL.
But not easy.
so feel for you!
The good news is that the good BIL has agreed to work on this project with me and we will see the old girl right between us.
