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got pretty peeved of and threatened the ole girl to drive her off a cliff i was that wound up.
Went back to basics and started all over.
Checked my air filter....again,all good,checked my pipes ...again all good,took the filter off the diesel head and checked the fuel flow again all good.
took the inlet pipe off and the turbo spins ok by hand and to be honest you can hear ,feel the turbo working.
I remembered a long time ago that she would cut out at anything over 3200 start smoking and "misfiring" and it turned out to be the air filter soggy and collapsing,so i triple checked the air filter again but as it was new two days ago it was fine.
Really peeved off now,so disconnected the pipe from the air filter box to the hard plastic pipe over the engine.
Tried here and hey ho works fine. Couldnt understand it,so i took the air filter out ,connected the pipe to the air filter and problem back again,revs to 4200 cuts out ,misfires,smokes.
It turned out the air filter box inlet was almost full of crud,cleaned it all out fitted the filter and hey ho ,all good.
Thinking about it,i work in really dusty conditions so should have considered it. Yes i do wash her regularly
Thanks to all who contributed