To continue I fitted the existing wires to the new one in the same orientation as the original, the relay plug was not seating properly so cutt out and crimped connectors to the wires to make sure I had good solid connections.
The top blade connects to black, then from the left black/grey, white/red and white.
Also big brown on the larger threaded post, this is live at 12.4 volts.
Larger yellow/black on the r/h post which goes to the glow plugs, there is continuity throughout the length of this to the glow plug itself.
The wire colours are not quite the same as in my workshop manual, a Disco w/manual has the same colours but they have swapped the black and black/grey around. I am sure the black is to earth, I have tried a fly-lead direct to the battery earth without any change in operation so think it is not an earth problem.
Black/grey I believe goes to the cold start (glow plug ?)warning light.
White/red goes to starter relay and ignition switch, - don't know where the starter relay is so havent checked that, I assume the ignition switch is OK.
White goes to fuel shut off valve and ignition switch, tested and am getting 12 v from blade to shut off valve with ign on.
According to my workshop manual (the big grey one, not Haynes) the relay shares a fuse with the hazard lights, hazards work as they should. All fuses have been visually checked, none blown. I do not have a fuse diagram for the car.
I have swapped back and forward, new to old and do not get any power to the glow plugs from either, with the old one fitted the glow plug warning light on the dash functions as normal, with the new one fitted the dash warning light is dim - perhaps 1/3 the brightness.
Bit lost as to what to do now.
I know there is a way to check the operation of a relay but can't remember how to rig up the test leads at the moment. Will have to get onto you tube and then at least I can rule that out.
As always thanks in advance for any comments.