As I'm at work at the moment I don't have to hand the information regarding the relay.
However.....
Your connection of the leads is correct. Be sure you have a good connection to the metal of the engine block, or alternatively connect the negitive probe to the negitive terminal of the battery (Thats the one nearest the wing).
To diagnose the problem.
First thing to do is, with the ignition off, and with the battery disconnected. Disconnect all the leads to the glow plugs. Set your meter to resistance range. Connect your probes, positive to the tip of the left hand glow plug, negitive to the engine block. Make sure there is good pressure on the probes as the resistance value you are looking for is so small that the contact resistance of the probe will affect the result. The reading should be between zero and one ohms. If its higher than ten ohms then there is a problem with this plug and it needs replacing. Do this for all four plugs. If any one is defective then it is best to replace the lot and hold the good ones from the old set as spares.
Once all plugs are tested and replaced as necessary then reconnect the wiring. Ensure the connections are sound as any resistance will cause damage due to heat. Reconnect your battery and close the back window
)). Set your meter to DC volts. Connect the negitive probe to the battery negative terminal (one nearest the wing). Connect the positive probe to any one of the glow plug tips. Switch the ignition on and quickly observe the meter (Don't start the engine). For a good 10 seconds there should be a value approaching 12V and not less than 10V. If not, as you have previously indicated, then there is a problem with the glow plug control circuit.
Two possibilities are the relay is defective, or the fuse as blown. As I said I don't have the data to hand at the moment to identify the relay or the fuse, however both will reside in the high tension fuse box next to the battery. I will have a look for it tonight if I can.
Good luck,
Dave