In other words 'I've made my choice' ? At least your family members will now know the situation if that is her meaning.
Only liking this cos it's the rulz.Morning All
Dry and 11° here
Chiro's @10:30, shopping later.
Naughty DIL deserted her family to be with her new man last night.
My son had to explain to the kids why Mummy had left them. I despise that woman.
Have a good day.
It'd be better all round if she'd get out and stay out, so the kids can get used to a new "normal".
I'd be in the business of changing the locks and chucking her stuff into bin bags on the front lawn if she was mine.
But then that's just me.
Well that makes no fecking sense. Which "him" is she on about?
Doubt all this, (from a distance obvs).
Still "locksmith and bin bags", then argue over access to the kids.
Maybe new bloke doesn't acksherly want here there? Maybe he's getting fed up her already?
Who knows!
Do really feel for you mate.
I too am a little confused as to the ambiguity of the message. I took it to mean that she bailed out of staying out all night with her new blokey cos "she owes husband more than that" which stinks in a different way, but still stinks.
i get the feeling she is just plucking up courage to move out permanently, or new blokey can't make up his mind whether he wants her round his permanently.
In any case she is trying to have her bun and her tuppence. At least to a certain extent.
So sad and so angry making all at the same time.
High pressure gloom here.
At least it is dry for the mo though not forecast to be so all day.
Busy day cleaning most of the house yessdi as guests were coming round and we do tend to leave the cleaning a bit when we first arrive as there is so much gardening to do.
Today I will start tackling the Disco's SVS issue.
Not looking forward to it, especially as another member has just struggled with getting some bolts out and he has a spare bit he can put on once he butchered the original.
I don't have that luxury!
All the best for a nice day folks!
At least it is dry for the mo though not forecast to be so all day.
Busy day cleaning most of the house yessdi as guests were coming round and we do tend to leave the cleaning a bit when we first arrive as there is so much gardening to do.
Today I will start tackling the Disco's SVS issue.
Not looking forward to it, especially as another member has just struggled with getting some bolts out and he has a spare bit he can put on once he butchered the original.
I don't have that luxury!
All the best for a nice day folks!
I think her meaning was that she felt she owed my son some measure of respect and not to rub his nose in it in such a blatant manner.Well that makes no fecking sense. Which "him" is she on about?
Doubt all this, (from a distance obvs).
Still "locksmith and bin bags", then argue over access to the kids.
Maybe new bloke doesn't acksherly want here there? Maybe he's getting fed up her already?
Who knows!
Do really feel for you mate.
I still think she's an awful person.
I also think this other bloke is an opportunist just enjoying some legover action and wants none of the bag & baggage that comes with it.
I think she is sensing this and is trying to hedge her bets. But I think she's been well and truly rumbled as a lying 2-faced trollop and the marriage is definitely toast.
She's been trying to shift "blame" onto my lad with shouts of "I only did that because..." She's a broken mental-case and while I feel sorry for her, he will eventually be well rid.
She's all about moving on to the the next bright & shiny thing that will "fix her/make her feel better". Hence the new house, the major renovations to the new house, the garden makeover, and now "a new man".
My lad is just one of her many victims I think. Sadly, this is going to cost him a lot financially and emotionally and ruin things for the kids he adores.
So sorry for you mate, and your son and his kids.
All you are saying makes perfect sense. As you say she is like a few other head cases I have met who think spending money and surrounding oneself with new shiny stuff will transform their lives.
Sadly she needs therapy but probably can't see it.
Our eldest daughter has a friend whom we cannot stand, my nickname for her is Shagnasty Sarah. She has spent her whole life moving from one man to another each time trying to improve her lot financially. she also managed to have a couple of kids on the way.
I once said she should write a book "How to be the most unsuccessful gold-digger ever".
After her first marriage ended, due to her infidelity, she married a "wealthy" young farmer only to discover he was "just" a tenant farmer, so he got slung.
Then lived with an old rich bloke who died and left her.......nix. (all went to his kids).
Then did much the same again. She is now married to a old Belgian who is supposed to be very wealthy but they are living in her broken down old place. Why? no one knows. Can't stand her.
What we can't understand is why our daughter is her friend.
@DanClarke re the financial thing, I'm reminded of how much work you did for him and the thoughts some of us had about you "billing" him for it, all predated to before all this kicked off.
If she didn't work much and didn't put much into the house, she shouldn't get much out. As has been posted before.
The divorce courts don't appreciate wimmins looking on it as a mealticket any longer.
The victim-blaming aspect of all this particularly stinks, she's read somewhere that "there are always" two sides to a breakdown of a marriage. This may well be true a lot of the time, and was probably true of mine, to a certain extent, but in many cases there is still a wrong doer and a victim and in this case it looks as if he's tried to do everything to make her happy and she has sucked it up and is now playing around cos she's, what, "bored"? That's about the most she can say!
Hate to say it, as I hate sticking money in lawyer's pockets, but it may pay him to have a good chat with one as to how he can save money on all this. Worth a few quid maybe.
Wifey just told me that the bloke I mentioned earlier in a similar position has just bought a smaller house but OK and moved in with his kids. His work is allowing him to work from home so this helps with his kids. (He is some sort of civil servant) He has the kids Thurs night through to Monday morning when he drops them off at school. He was SO scared when he saw the judge was a woman!
If she didn't work much and didn't put much into the house, she shouldn't get much out. As has been posted before.
The divorce courts don't appreciate wimmins looking on it as a mealticket any longer.
The victim-blaming aspect of all this particularly stinks, she's read somewhere that "there are always" two sides to a breakdown of a marriage. This may well be true a lot of the time, and was probably true of mine, to a certain extent, but in many cases there is still a wrong doer and a victim and in this case it looks as if he's tried to do everything to make her happy and she has sucked it up and is now playing around cos she's, what, "bored"? That's about the most she can say!
Hate to say it, as I hate sticking money in lawyer's pockets, but it may pay him to have a good chat with one as to how he can save money on all this. Worth a few quid maybe.
Wifey just told me that the bloke I mentioned earlier in a similar position has just bought a smaller house but OK and moved in with his kids. His work is allowing him to work from home so this helps with his kids. (He is some sort of civil servant) He has the kids Thurs night through to Monday morning when he drops them off at school. He was SO scared when he saw the judge was a woman!
I think you have summed this up perfectly! She is just hedging her bets having probably got vibes from 'new man' that he is getting cold feet.
Time for him to get professional help??
Hicap phill
Well-Known Member
Good evening from kings Lynn
I am on a short week…
I have a few pages of licks to catch up on.
Save these for the weekend.
I am on a short week…
I have a few pages of licks to catch up on.
Save these for the weekend.
Getting me track bike cleaned up ready for sale
.....just that phase one of the SVS mod has gone off OK.
I managed to wrestle the plate on the bottom of the modulator, or whatever it's called, off by making a sort of special tool to get into the Allen key headed bolts hidden underneath.
Twas a pig of a job but it's off and awaiting my soldering skills.
Once that is achieved I will put it back together, put back in place all the other gubbins I had to either remove or move to a different place while still attached to the beast, before I can then earth one lead and make a connection from the other lead to one in the harness leading back to the ECU thing.
Once that's done, if it all works, I'll run around the land jumping like a spring chicken and shouting "yipee" and "Yee hah" and stuff.
If it don't work, I'll just go to the bottom of the land and eat worms!!
Sleep tite folks!!
I managed to wrestle the plate on the bottom of the modulator, or whatever it's called, off by making a sort of special tool to get into the Allen key headed bolts hidden underneath.
Twas a pig of a job but it's off and awaiting my soldering skills
. Once that is achieved I will put it back together, put back in place all the other gubbins I had to either remove or move to a different place while still attached to the beast, before I can then earth one lead and make a connection from the other lead to one in the harness leading back to the ECU thing.
Once that's done, if it all works, I'll run around the land jumping like a spring chicken and shouting "yipee" and "Yee hah" and stuff.
If it don't work, I'll just go to the bottom of the land and eat worms!!
Sleep tite folks!!
Hicap phill
Well-Known Member
Morning.
Dull 'ere and they've told us to expect a shower in the coming hour.
