Really, Really ⅎⅎo ǝɯ ƃuᴉʞɔnⅎ right now.
Son dumps his kids on us so he can go out for a night.
Why are they dumped on us? .....because his slut wife cannot be guaranteed to come home at all to look after her kids, and if she does come home she will get drunk and not be "safe".
So we have to look after them rather than there being a babysitter covering the slot between when he goes out and she gets back from work, stays sober and looks after her kids.
WTF is this? My missus is all "lets just get through it" and giving me $hit for feeling somewhat put out.
So sorry mate, do feel for you.
Let's hope this is only temporary and sooner or later they, or he, will wake up to the fact that if this happens often enough they'll end up in care.:)
 
It really is hard on you and your good lady but keep telling yourself that you are doing this for the sake of the grankids. Yes, 'she' is neglecting them if she is not able to be a proper mother but two wrongs will not make it right - for the children. It may be necessary to have a 'fatherly' chat with your son so that he is aware that you are not finding things easy now that you are both getting older. I am sure he does know it but he is so involved in the situation that even he can't find a solution.
If she does come home in a state that she is unable to take responsibility for the children then it might be necessary for some 'Services' intervention and this would certainly count against her in any custody battle.
a big +^ to all this:(
 
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Morning All :D
Awoken @ 05:30 by the kids running around. :mad:
Then they were yanking on the bedroom door-handle @6. :mad:
I lost my rag and shouted at them to get back to bed. :eek:
Friction between me and her because I said "No" but she's said yes to the whole thing. :(
I'm sure it will blow over but I object to being used in this way.
Have a good day :D
 
Morning All :D
Awoken @ 05:30 by the kids running around. :mad:
Then they were yanking on the bedroom door-handle @6. :mad:
I lost my rag and shouted at them to get back to bed. :eek:
Friction between me and her because I said "No" but she's said yes to the whole thing. :(
I'm sure it will blow over but I object to being used in this way.
Have a good day :D

Baby sitting duties are one thing, kids running riot and ruling the roost is another. :mad: It's your house you set the rules! I wouldn't even have the dogs running riot and causing a disturbance to me at that hour. They need to be taught to live within the rules and entering your bedroom without an invite is definately a no no. Perhaps it would be a good idea to catch them at the breakfast table and fully explain the house rules to them, this would then make it acceptable for you to shout for peace at that unruly hour and expect to be obeyed. If they don't comply then sanctions will come into play, at the very least they will obey :) at the best, they will tell their dad that they do not want to sleep-over at grandad's. :):):)

It is hard for children to live by two sets of rules without knowing when and where to apply each different one. A good mantra to keep in mind is " If you haven't taught it then they don't know it".
 
Baby sitting duties are one thing, kids running riot and ruling the roost is another. :mad: It's your house you set the rules! I wouldn't even have the dogs running riot and causing a disturbance to me at that hour. They need to be taught to live within the rules and entering your bedroom without an invite is definately a no no. Perhaps it would be a good idea to catch them at the breakfast table and fully explain the house rules to them, this would then make it acceptable for you to shout for peace at that unruly hour and expect to be obeyed. If they don't comply then sanctions will come into play, at the very least they will obey :) at the best, they will tell their dad that they do not want to sleep-over at grandad's. :):):)

It is hard for children to live by two sets of rules without knowing when and where to apply each different one. A good mantra to keep in mind is " If you haven't taught it then they don't know it".
I had the discussion with my son and he had assured me that they had been made very well aware that Nanny & Grandad need their sleep and they were to stay in their rooms and be quiet until we fetched them at "getting up" time.
They are just unruly and mis-behaved (which is why I don't want them here without their parents). My wife seems unable to say "NO" to her son. My starting position is "NO", hers is "YES". :(
 

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