I think you're in a situation that many of us will be finding ourselves in soon
Heat recovery system sounds interesting - hope you can share your plans?
I agree - I'm just one of the first to fall because of the poor state of my house!
{Here in the Netherlands houses are sold with energy labels much like washing machines - I don't know if that is done in other countries but I suspect so - my house is rated as G - the lowest rating - which is essentially saying in winter you'll be warmer in a two hundred quid B&Q garden shed!}
Heat recovery idea so far is as follows:-
1) I have to insulate the house and turn it into an airtight box
You have to do this to give a heat recovery system the chance to work
2) I'll be routing insulated ventilation ducts through out the house.
At the moment the plan is to buy the metal ducting that is quite cheap and widely available and then build boxes around the ducts to hold insulation. This will be easiest in the eaves - so instead of having say eaves cupboards in the loft I'll have poo loads of insulation around ventilation pipes.
3) I intend to get carried away with cheap pressure sensors to measure if I get large pressure differences at the exits and entry points to the ventilation system in each room. (I'm a Dad so) I hate it when doors bang!
4) Noise is a real problem for old fashioned ventilation systems - for example airco on trains is so bad I have bought noise cancelling headphones.
I plan to be able to control fan speeds and control flow rates by introducing flaps within each section (this is going to be all based on estimations and "feelings" as I'm not going to have access to fancy computer simulation programs).
I will probably have to add in acoustic measures much like mufflers on exhaust systems so the ducting in the loft will be made in modular sections so I can add in changes if needed. I have an engineering background in acoustics and vibration so I know in principle where to look for trouble and to calculate my way towards solutions. I'm also keen to make a Helmholtz resonator since I learnt about it in University - this is a perfect excuse!
5) The main part of the heat recovery systems are essentially simple heat exchangers that look much like an (automotive) intercooler. You can buy these "intercoolers" (that have been made for the purpose of heat recovery systems) on ebay. You then just need to make an insulated box to go around them.
Put in a drain for condensation.
6) Get a three phase power supply installed
Here in NL a 220V three phase supply can be easily arranged. Apparently the three phase motors are more efficient than the single phase equivalents. They take up less space and are easier to control (speed-wise)
Whilst most off the shelf heat recovery systems seem to use a single motor with fans on either end of their rotating shafts I plan to use two independent three phase motors to enable control of the air coming in and going out of the system. Whilst I expect that I will do my best to make the house airtight I have a feeling it won't be perfect (!) so having the additional ability to fine tune fan speeds (whilst achieving the number of air changes per hour target - sorry I can't remember what that is today - google it if you need to) and stop any discrepancies in pressure and thus controling ventilation noise and banging doors...
...that's about as far as I have got at the moment.
As this thread will testify I have an uncanny ability to get distracted so I'm really doing my best to concentrate on the insulation at the moment.
When I get round to coming up with a system I'll be happy to be diverted on that tangent at a later date.