You're on the wrong path then cos the main beam warning signal has nothing to do with the BCU, it's hardwired from the instrument pack's plug to interior fusebox C0590 pin 5(see RAVE - electrical library - connector views) where it should be delivered by the IDM (that's why i said it can be complicated) so if you can't find some dry joint in the fusebox you might need another cos the IDM is an integrated circuit within the fusebox
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though why can't you drive it ... can't you see that the main beam is actually on? ... it means you have some very weak bulbs then