Thanks guys.
The queens cheese -I will look into this as a possibility I hadn't thought of. Thank you.
Gary - I have no better half so no toes being stepped on here. I really appreciate you going to so much trouble for me.
It seems I need to argue again with the main dealer.
I am just worried that I will pay to have car trailered to them and they will then tell me they cannot programme it and say I need a new ECU just as they told me I would. At that point I then have the choice of paying them a huge amount of money, or paying a breakdown company to uplift my (still not working) car back home again and am back to square one.
I wish my local dealers weren't such *******! I hate being ripped off.
I am just struggling to find anyone who will programme it apart from them.
ok no probs, just feel so sorry for u and will do a bit more digging for u, but didnt want to upset anyone
can u ring them monday and talk to the manager , plus the other dealers you've spoken to have they also said u dont need an ecu , as if they say 100 percent u dont need one and agree with what my dealer is saying could u join the rac or AA etc , or maybe if u explain the situation to the dealer they may pick it up for u .
in the mean time will see if i can find a company that does programming for u to give u another option ,
as a thought i wonder if bmw do it as its a bmw key etc