So does my bloody birthday and I`d rather forget that as well !
tomcat59alan
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Datatek
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Not allowed anymore, might offend the Muslims.
Not allowed anymore, might offend the Muslims.
Must be some somewhere, going to look on fleabay
tomcat59alan
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FFS it's not even December yet.
Frenchdame
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Wow - better lie down now you've exhausted your entire vocabulary!
tomcat59alan
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It would be far better if it wasn't so commercial, how are things mate?
Frenchdame
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Difficult from time to time Alan. I have never known such a cruel illness. Terribly sad and degrading, there's still just the two of us, I don't want to involve anyone else at this stage, that will come eventually. The worst is that she knows she is never going to get better but tries very hard to improve. It is, though, like a glacier - there's a little less every day. But I guess there are many folk around who are much worse than us. I still take her out in the Rangey on the odd little trip to the shops and she likes waving royally to people in traffic and at lights etc. How are you?
C
tomcat59alan
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I'm still recovering slowly,if I do too much I pay for it for days after,thanks for asking.please ask for help there is only so much you can do on your own. I feel for my partner, not only has she had my problems to deal with but also her mother is going through the final stages of dementia. As you say it's a cruel illness. Chin up and God bless enjoy every precious moment. Kindest Regards.A
Frenchdame
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Delighted you are improving - your partner is going to need you. Best wishes
C
Datatek
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Good to hear you are getting better Alan, the idea of dementia scares the shyte out of me, to me it is the very worst way to leave this life, sympathy to anyone who has to deal with it especially the partners or family.
Frenchdame
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I think it is wonderful that you guys are so aware and sympathetic to this awful illness. Two years ago next month, my wife woke in the morning and ran into a bedroom corner screaming: she had just discovered she was in bed with a strange man - me! We had been married then for forty six years.
It took a number if hours of screaming and hysteria, during which I managed to get my sister-in-law here and it all calmed down. It was frightening and indicated a life to come. Last night she woke up screaming and crying that I was starving her and she didn't have a house or anywhere to live at her late stage in life. I calmed that and then she realises that it was mostly nightmare and bad dreams and she is so sad at what she accused me of.
It's not her fault. Your best friend for decades disintegrates in front of you and you are helpless.
Sorry for going on and on but I have a few moments while she sleeps and my mood sort of matches the weather.
BUT: I get asked on LZ about my situation and about how my wife is. I get asked by LZ'ers who do not know me, have never met me but yet have an instinct of humanity. Three close friends have totally dropped us. Two were a couple who spent free holidays with us in France, and were fed and watered by my missus; one was an Engishman, a single man who lived in France 20 miles from us who my wife gave lunch or dinner to every week. He now lives in the UK 30 miles from us and has totally cut us off. We did his UK shopping for him, nothing was too much.
So thank LZ for your kindness and thoughts to those who have a problem. I don't do sentimentality too much but I know a caring person when I hear from one.
